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My husband was kind enough to allow me to share the story of how he joined together with his Jewish community aboard the USS Enterprise despite the difficulties of deployment in the spring of 2011. I’ll turn it over to him for today’s post. Enjoy!


I knew before the deployment started that celebrating Passover would be a little challenging. But, like most things, it’s just a matter of finding the community and going for it. The Navy is very good about arranging to have rabbis come out to forward deployed areas for Jewish holidays. The only question that remained was whether to enjoy the holiday aboard Naval Support Activity Bahrain or try to stay overnight on the Enterprise.

I made that call once I saw an old friend from Jewish Midshipman Club (JMC) aboard the ship. He was a submariner on a shore tour. But, since he was attached to the destroyer squadron as an undersea warfare specialist, it was one of those deploying kind of shore tours. So, counter to every single bit of COD guy training I had received since officially becoming a COD guy, I asked our officer in charge if I could stay aboard the ship for a night. On purpose. No mission requirement for such. He didn’t see a problem with it.

I rode in the back of the COD out to the ship. As I was walking through the Air Transfer Office shack, I spotted a man with a black kippah on his head. This, evidently, was the rabbi. The ATO shack is where all passengers going onto and coming off the ship via aircraft muster. He had conducted a pre-Pesach Seder the day before, with the intent of celebrating aboard NSA Bahrain on the actual day. But, he assured me there were plans to have a Seder-in-a-box shindig aboard the Big E.

A COD sits aboard the USS Enterprise beneath a star-strewn night sky. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Brooks B. Patton Jr./Released)

A COD sits aboard the USS Enterprise beneath a star-strewn night sky. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Brooks B. Patton Jr./Released)

I ran into one of the ship’s chaplains who got me the time and place for the Seder. We managed to snag the captain’s in-port cabin. Nice! With this critical question answered, I spent most of the day getting a sunburn out on the LSO (Landing Signal Officer) platform watching recovering aircraft. I even got up there to see a night recovery for the first time. The night was absolutely gorgeous.  A full harvest moon hung lazily on the horizon directly behind the aircraft coming in on the approach, illuminating some distant clouds. Directly over the ship, it was painfully clear, a million stars lighting the night.

Seeing flight operations at night is one hell of an experience. On the cat shot, the afterburner seems to leave a trail of fire behind each jet.  For landing aircraft, even with our exceptionally bright night, at first all you see headed towards the ship are a series of position lights. The LSOs record which wire the aircraft caught for each pass. In the day, it’s a trivial matter to see. At night, you have to catch seeing the sparks next to the capstan for whichever wire plays out. Once we completed the recovery, I went down to the in-port cabin.

A photo of the "Pre-Pesach Seder" conducted the night before Sampson arrived aboard the USS Enterprise. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 3rd Class Nick C. Scott/Released)

A photo of the “Pre-Pesach Seder” conducted the night before Sampson arrived aboard the USS Enterprise. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 3rd Class Nick C. Scott/Released)

The captain’s cabin was set up with a white lace tablecloth and plastic dinnerware. Two huge boxes contained our Seder supplies. For karpas, there was raw onion.  The charoset was this compressed stuff that looked like a PowerBar. The maror was in little single-serving packets. There were the obligatory boxes of matzah, plus round matzah, which I had not seen before. There were a bunch of plastic Seder plates as well. For wine, we had enough boxes of grape juice to supply a third-world country.

If the supplies were a bit, ah, expeditionary in nature, the company was fantastic. My friend from JMC showed up. A department head from HS-11, our helo squadron, was the only other pilot. There was a lieutenant from Supply who was born in Columbia and raised in Venezuela.  The Seder was led by an Intel ensign. On the enlisted side, there was one guy from the ATO with whom my detachment worked all the time, so that was another familiar face. There were four ladies, three of whom were nukes, one of whom was not actually Jewish, but came along to support her friend.

The Seder was conducted a bit quickly. Most of the crew had done a pre-Seder with the rabbi the previous night that was exceedingly lengthy. Just as we reached the Festival Meal, an alarm sounded over the 1MC.

“Man overboard, starboard side. This will be a helicopter recovery.”

When a man overboard happens, it is necessary to account for every individual aboard. The boat exploded into a controlled kind of chaos.  People in shower shoes and bathrobes started moving towards their work centers to muster. With my detachment not aboard, I didn’t actually have anyone with whom I had to muster. I decided to go down to the VAW-123 Screwtops ready room since the ship’s E-2 squadron is who typically takes care of us.

We watched the action on the PLAT camera as the helo spun up. On the water, someone had dropped flares to mark the position of the unfortunate individual. The helicopter lifted, cut back and forth several times, and within thirty minutes, plucked the man from the Arabian Gulf. Later we would find out that this was a suicide attempt.

Actually, many Jewish holidays fall on good nights for a high probability of rescue from the sea. That full moon provided 99% illumination. When the person you’re looking for doesn’t have a float coat, cranial, or any other reflective material, you need all the help you can get.

We returned to our Seder once the action stopped. There was no real Festival Meal to speak of, so after helping the mess cranks clean up, I went down to Wardroom 2 for some midrats. There are two basic foods aboard a ship that are almost always going to be delicious: omelets and soft-serve ice cream. The ice cream is called dog. The machine has an arm you lift that looks like a tail. Lifting the tail of the dog to get some ice cream is an appropriately crude visual metaphor for the environment. I don’t know how exactly, but I definitely want to integrate these foods into my Passover tradition from now on.

It was a wonderful experience to celebrate the holiday underway, about as close as one could get to celebrating with family while thousands of miles from home. It can be a strange thing to be a Jew in the service. You are a minority among your fellow sailors and the Jewish population at large. But, I just can’t see doing it any other way.


#blogExodus, the brainchild of Rabbi Phyllis Sommer, invites participants to chronicle the weeks leading up to Passover through blog posts, photos, and other social media expressions.

MilSpouse Holiday Blog Swap

If you’re like me, you’re still in denial that it is even close to December, much less that we’re already two weeks in. I am in dire need of a mental calendar reset in the form of seasonal stories, holiday memories, and winter warmth. Only one thing could possibly drum the reality of this month into my brain: a blog swap!

Milspouse Holiday Blog Swap 2011

Like the Valentine’s Day MilSpouse Blog Swap earlier this year, today’s swap is the brainchild of Wife on the Roller Coaster. Click on the logo above to find a showcase of unique perspectives on the winter holiday season written by military spouses from a variety of backgrounds.

Flip Flops and Combat BootsI have the pleasure of playing hostess to the charming Nicole of Flip Flops and Combat Boots. Her passion for good food and good wine makes her a woman after my own heart; should you find yourself in her neck of the woods, you wouldn’t go wrong to seek her advice on local vino and cuisine.

The holiday spirit that Nicole and her handsome Marine husband seek to share with her stepson Kaleb, as you will read in her post, has the power to return that spark of childhood magic even to grown-up hearts.


“I Believe” by Nicole of Flip Flops and Combat Boots

I still believe. Yes, I am twenty-six and still believe in Santa. Of course, I know Santa is not real but there is nothing wrong with still believing in the magic of Christmas.

When I was around fourteen I knew Santa wasn’t real, so I told my younger sister. She was upset, and said, “Well, at least I still have the Easter Bunny.” That will always be a family joke… but the more I thought about it, the more I still wanted to believe.

So, I set up a game for Santa. I found a piece of wood and left Santa a note: “If you are real you will carve in this wood.” Apparently, I thought a big jolly man could do that… but not my parents! The next morning I woke up… and the wood was carved. I still knew he wasn’t real but I had something to hold onto.

I don’t believe in ruining the magic for kids. It’s not lying, I don’t feel as if I was lied to and I don’t think we’re lying to Kaleb.

If you take Santa out of Christmas you take away the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny and the Pot of Gold on St. Patrick’s Day. Kids deserve to believe… or else they end up old and cranky before their time. Let them believe… and maybe you will start believing again.


Eighth Night of ChanukahTo the Nth here again: I want to thank Nicole for allowing me to share the story of “Santa’s” woodcarving with my readers. Don’t forget to drop by Riding the Roller Coaster and visit all of the MilSpouse Holiday Blog Swap participants — you don’t want to miss any of their wintertime stories!

Want to read about my very first Chanukah as a Navy wife? Take a spin on over to The Life of an Army Wife, where Katie is graciously acting as my host.

Guest Post: Welcome to Cruise

Military spouses occupy a curious corner of the greater military blogging constellation. I could sit here all day and tell you all about what it’s like to be married to a nasal radiator naval aviator. I could give a first-hand account of deployment from the homefront perspective. I could tell you all about my husband’s aircraft, its mission, and even rattle off immediate action items from the emergency procedures checklists. We spouses tend to absorb quite a bit of information through osmosis.

What I cannot tell you, however, is what it feels like to fly the beast, to land it on a pitching deck, and to spend months bouncing from foreign base to foreign base in order to stay within reach of the aircraft carrier relying on its CODs for cargo, mail, and transport of important personnel. For that, you need to ask my husband. He has graciously offered to share a vignette that captures a moment those of us who wait at home do not get to see: the instant that deployment truly begins.

“Last Minute” by Sampson

Aircraft carriers leave little margin for error. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class James R. Evans/Released)

Somewhere in the back of your airplane, Petty Officer Jones is saying his Hail Marys. It’s a strange thing for a man that scared of flying and ships to be in a COD squadron. Yet, here he is, and here you are, flying from the left seat in one of two mighty C-2A Greyhounds. In addition to forty- something enlisted aircraft maintainers, they are stuffed to the gills with everything your COD detachment will need for the next six months supporting a carrier air wing.

Well, okay, the birds don’t have everything you’ll need. Five people are waiting to catch a ride on a C-130 across the pond to start setting up the first Forward Logistics Site. The good news is that’s five fewer days stuck on a boat. The bad news is none of them are about to bag a trap.

LSOs guide aircraft in for safe landings. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 3rd Class Brent Thacker/Released)

The boat is still close offshore. She is steaming conspicuously westerly, into the rapidly setting sun. In half an hour, you’ll make like Cinderella’s carriage and turn into a pumpkin. But, good news! The deck is expecting you. Your signal is “buster”, which is boat-speak for keep your foot on the floor, and expect “Charlie on arrival”, which means you should recover immediately.

You follow behind your detachment’s other aircraft. As you set up for your entry into the pattern, you can’t help but notice the sun sitting just above and to the left of the ship’s landing area. This could get interesting. Sure enough, rolling into the groove, the ball is barely visible – and it is low. Power on, you’re afraid to actually scan angle of attack and lineup lest you lose glideslope reference. The niggling detail that this ship has had the third of four wires normally on the flight deck stripped enters unwelcome into your brain.

Arrested Landing

A C-2A Greyhound makes an arrested landing. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist Seaman Rosa A. Arzola/Released)

When you take an arrested landing, one of two things happen: you stop fairly quickly or the LSOs call out “Bolter, bolter bolter” almost immediately. Not today. WHUMP, you are on deck, one potato, two potatoes, three potatoes, and at last, there’s that blessed deceleration. In a couple of hours, the LSO will explain that your hook skipped over the second wire but snagged number four, hence the three eternities on the landing rollout.

But right now none of that matters. You taxi the bird out of the landing area, fold the wings, and shut her down for the ride across the Atlantic. The aircraft commander turns to you and shakes your hand.

“Nice trap. Welcome to cruise.”

The ship is pointed conspicuously eastward…

Valentine’s Day Blog Swap

Forget sappy cards with hearts of pink and red and bare Cupid bottoms — when military spouses want to show their esteem for one another, they lovingly craft Valentine’s Day blog posts to swap and share.

MilSpouse Blog Swap - 14 February 2011

Hosted by the lovely lady at Riding the Roller Coaster, today’s swap showcases military spouses’ thoughts on the theme of Valentine’s Day. Click on the logo above to see not only my guest post at Riding the Roller Coaster, but links to the offerings of all other swap participants.

Sespi and ChrisAll right, now for the goods! It is my distinct pleasure to introduce one of my best blogging buddies, Sespi of And You Never Did Think. Besides being a fellow Navy wife, she is a highly intelligent woman of diverse interests and many talents. When she isn’t honing her Russian language skills or increasing her expertise in the field of nonproliferation policy, she tends to a pair of energetic canines and bakes all manner of mouthwatering treats. I firmly believe that she will one day be the first Secretary of Defense to run a bakery (for both two-legged and four-legged customers, no less) on the side. Her dedication to big dreams is a continuing inspiration to me, as is her positive, practical outlook — one embodied perfectly in her thoughts on the true meaning of Valentine’s Day.


First off, thanks to To The Nth for hosting this post from me! I have to admit, I signed up for this swap with no idea what I was going to write about. I’m not the mushy gushy type at all, so thinking of a topic took me a really long time. And then I got inspiration from an unexpected place.

While on a (way too long) flight last week, I watched Valentine’s Day and thought that Jessica Biel’s character was over the top ridiculous with her constant “woe-is-me-I’m-all-alone” candy eating and plans for an anti-Valentine’s Day party. I’m not going to lie; I’ve never understood the “I’m all alone and I hate Valentine’s Day” attitude. That could be because I didn’t have a Valentine until I was 24 (and it was Chris… awwwww) and thus, celebrated Valentine’s Day in a completely different way than most people seem to. For me, Valentine’s Day is a day of love, not a day of romance.

When I was younger, my mom always gave us small presents and a card on Valentine’s Day. I swapped cartoon character Valentines with friends and ate my share of candy hearts that said Hug Me and U R Cool. In college, I lived in an all girl house that hosted our own Valentine’s Day festivities: we put a fire in the lounge fire place; provided wine, chocolate, cheese, and strawberries; and had a chick flick movie marathon in our pajamas. One year, my brother even sent me a Valentine’s Day package! So while my Valentine’s Days without a significant other far outnumber the Valentine’s Days with a boyfriend/husband, I’ve never actually been alone or felt unloved on Valentine’s Day.

There was a storyline in the movie, however unrealistic, that resonated with my understanding of Valentine’s Day completely: the Army Captain who makes a trip home to spend 24 hours with her son for Valentine’s Day. I always tear up when she walks into his bedroom and they just sit there hugging.

To me, that’s what Valentine’s Day is about. Not heart shaped boxes of chocolates (but I wouldn’t turn them down if you offered), or huge PDAs (yuck), or even having a significant other to share it with (though that’s always fun), but just being with the people you love.

So today, I’ll call my family, snuggle with my puppies, and hang out with Chris. I can’t think of a better way to celebrate Valentine’s Day.


Hey, it’s To the Nth again. Many thanks to Sespi for giving me the opportunity to share such a heartwarming piece on my blog, and thanks also to Wife on the Roller Coaster for being such a gracious hostess. Now, go forth and check out the other participants’ posts!